In today's world
trusting people have become a rare factor in human relationship. It is so low
that children don't share their problems with parents nor couples share their
problems with each other. The trust deficit in relationship is so high that we
don't share our issues or concerns among humans rather we would only share our
fake happiness to our invaluable en-number of friends on social media whom
we hardly know well.
Earlier the
bonding among the humans was so strong that we used to share problems to humans
who understand our issues in much better way unlike today where we keep
updating our moods on artificial platforms which doesn't even find solution nor
console us. The issue of self esteem never intervined while sharing our
problems with our loved ones earlier because of the strong bonding humans had
at that time, hence the term such as depression, anxiety disorder etc. was rare
and abnormal at that time.
Today the ultimate
goal in life has turned out to be pursuing happiness. But in the run, to pursue
happiness people are becoming hopeless and full of emptiness causing
depression. This is because people are so obsessed with pursuing happiness in
life rather than having meaningful life.
For the information of
my readers; psychologically “happiness” is defined as a short term state of well
being where as “meaningful life” would result in eternal happiness.
Hence I would say
a life beyond happiness i.e. living a meaningful life is much better than just
pursuing happiness.
Now the question
which arises is how one can live a meaning full life?
According to me
there are four factors or pillars which lead one to live a meaningful life
and they are -Belongingness, Purpose, Transcendence,
self-consoling.
Belongingness-
Let me start by
mentioning to my readers that a true belongingness is a state where you are
valued for whom you are, and not for whom you are not. If you try to live in
fazard life for the sake of creating a network of belongingness with the people
whom you wish to, then let me tell that in the long run this won’t work out because
the fazard life you showcased will disappear as you feel that the belongings you
have created really understand you. But in reality the circumstance would be in
another way because you were valued for whom you were not. So in short let me conclude
by saying that one should have network but at same time one should try to spare time to create
belongingness among the society which really values whom you are, and supports
you at the time of the need.
Purpose-
In order to live a
life meaningful, one should have a purpose in his/her life. Purpose really drives
person to live in this world. No matter if you fail in your life you won’t attempt
to suicide or end your life. This is because a person in this world who has
some objective won’t look back until and unless he achieve his purpose. And happiness will automatically follow once
you achieve your purpose.
Transcendence-
Transcendence is a
state of going beyond reality. For some people transcendence occur by attending
some lecture or seminar and for some people transcendence occur while they stay
alone. One should have the daring power to doubt the existing realities and come out
with empirical solution or alternatives resulting in giving life for meaning
full. This is because one can’t be happy in the long run by believing the doubtful.
Self-consoling.-
Self-consoling is very important key to live a successful life. Self-consoling is an
ability of consoling oneself during the times of failure and empowering oneself
to believe in his/her abilities.
A person like Bill Gates who failed
in his life during his early stage won’t have built a successful firm like Microsoft
if he didn’t have self-consoling ability.
Hence as I mentioned
earlier and by taking the example with reflection of people lives such as Bill Gates, Mahatma Gandhi, Mother Theresa, Swami
Vivekananda and many others, living a meaningful life is much better than just pursuing happiness in life.
-Francis Lazar.
